transgender day of visibility.


[[TW: mention of suicide]]
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A six year old from San Diego named Ryland Whittington is in the news because he’s transgendered. He was born a girl, but identified himself as a boy right from the beginning. His parents did what some would say is radical and let her become a boy, although she was only 5. Thoughts?

The family posted a video chronicling their story here:

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The pros and cons of transgender children in the public eye
By Emanuella Grinberg, CNN

Enrique Perez’s daughter was born a boy. But, from an early age, Perez says, his first-born made clear a preference for pink clothes, dolls and “anything princess.”

The family lived in Mexico at the time and decided to support her choices. She grew her hair long and wore pink clothes to school. She was 5 years old in December 2012 when she declared that she wanted to ditch the boy toys, pierce her ears and “live fully” as a girl — pronouns and all, Perez said.

Her parents again decided to respect her wishes. Since moving from Mexico City to New York in 2013, they’ve only told school officials and close friends about her transition. They want people to get to know her without preconceived notions. Perez asked to withhold her name from this article to avoid making her a poster child on the Internet for transgender youth.

There have been ups and downs, but seeing his daughter happy on a daily basis leaves no doubt in Perez’s mind that “this is the way she is.” When the opportunity arose for the family to walk in New York City’s annual Pride March this Sunday, she was eager to participate to show that she’s not ashamed of who she is and that she supports others like her.

“We are happy to be a part of something like the parade, and that’s because we are happy to be supportive of her,” Perez said in a phone interview from his New York home.

Famous Transgenders:
Laverne Cox is the grand marshal of New York’s annual Pride March on Sunday. She appeared on the VH1 reality show “I Want to Work for Diddy” and later produced her own series “TRANSform Me.” She now plays the role of Sophia, a trans woman in prison, on the Netflix show “Orange Is the New Black.” She is one of a few high-profile transgender people.
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36 comments for “transgender day of visibility.

  1. Conrad Martel
    April 3, 2015 at 2:17 pm

    Forget GOD I knew I was gay since young. I married had children and
    divorced when I was 25yo. My kids and grandkids all accept me for who I am.
    I have lived with a man all my life since I was 25. I am loving partner,
    parent and grandparent. My ex wife has suffered when I divorced but that
    was because society told me I was not gay. If I had had a choice I would
    never have been with a woman or married. These days, internet etc more
    people have a choice and support for being who they are. God or no god just
    allow others to be who they are. Even if they choose to be a certain way.
    In cases of homosexuality and being born into different body than our sex
    parts, what is the problem? Just live and let live.
    All are the same. All want to be loved and love another. We are all
    different in one way or many. Let all be who they want to be.
    I have been judged for my long hair all my life. God had long hair, jesus
    christ had long hair not to mention all the men depicted in the bible etc.
    And they wore robes/dresses. Just saying.

  2. kcy805
    April 3, 2015 at 1:58 pm

    First and foremost I truly applaud the parents of this boy/girl for
    accepting their child the way they do. I think I would have done the same
    if I am blessed with the same situation. Second, I want to say God doesn’t
    make mistakes. It’s the world we live in, the air we breath,
    and the chemically grown food we consumed that have altered our genetic
    DNAs. If it’s me, I’d said this is God’s test for me to see if I would love
    my child as much as He loves His. PEACE.

  3. Faithful Sentinel
    April 3, 2015 at 1:26 pm

    Children are supposed to be protected by their parents and when the parents
    fail… the law. A six year old child does not possess the mental capacity
    or critical thinking ability to make these types of life decisions. This is
    why children cannot legally sign contracts, drive, legally consume alcohol,
    legally purchase tobacco products, or consent to sexual contact. I’m
    ashamed to say that America has forgone the protection of the child in
    favor of appeasing political lobbyists and activists. THIS IS A CHILD!
    Sheesh, People… There’s nothing wrong with being a tomboy. There’s
    nothing wrong with playing with the boys and toys marketed to boys. The
    problem arises when parents take the easy way out and opt to let the
    medical community experiment on their children with blockers and hormone
    treatments. Be what you want to be. But leave the children out of it.

  4. Donnie Raveling
    April 3, 2015 at 12:58 pm

    The parents are truly sick to not nurture their baby girl. Parents are to
    nurture guide their offspring truthfully. Children do NOT know or
    understand danger and every parent is to teach their children. I speak from
    a childhood where my male/boyhood was NOT nurture – in fact my own mother
    argued against me being a boy. My parents eventually divorced and I
    embraced a gay life where I would only accept another’s maleness

  5. LordSpoda
    April 3, 2015 at 12:27 pm

    Add a message to your video

  6. ajtrans
    April 3, 2015 at 12:04 pm

    being trans myself I feel itsa awesome thing those parents r doing bc it
    saves him from growing up w the devastation of havin go threw the female
    changes..severe depression ect as far as callin trans ppl or I
    mean sayin utsa sexuality is wrong bc sexuality n gender is 2 different
    things. .bc there r transmen as well as trans women who r gay or straight.
    .sexuality is the gender u r attracted 2..gender is the gender u identify

  7. Ann May
    April 3, 2015 at 11:23 am

    I have a 16 year old transgender child. I admire what these parents have
    done. My daughter came out when she was 15 but as a mom I knew for a long
    time. Her father is not accepting of her. I love my daughter who’s birth
    name was Kati but now calls herself Keegan. If you are not a parent of a
    gay or transgender child you have no idea the turmoil these kids go thru.
    I’ve witnessed it first hand and it’s heart breaking especially when you
    live in rural America. I commend these parents and I truly believe kids are
    born this way. I’ve witnessed it first hand. 

  8. chris green Philly
    April 3, 2015 at 10:42 am

    Hahaha, ‘lively discussions’, good luck with that. I mean, unless by lively
    discussions you specifically mean pissing contests, because that’s
    generally what about 99.9% of all internet ‘debates’ I guess I’ll call them
    for lack of a better word are, just simply a bunch of clashing egos having
    pissing contests.

  9. Ann Powell
    April 3, 2015 at 9:52 am

    What a lucky boy, to have parents who love him enough to let him be who he
    is and not try to “fix” him. 

  10. ricky carrasco
    April 3, 2015 at 8:56 am

    My daughter acts like a boy plays with cars and some boys toys but she is a
    girl. And why cause God does not make mistakes palms 139 read this verse. I
    think these parents ran with this. And that choice they made will be
    between them and God. 

  11. King Heart
    April 3, 2015 at 8:56 am

    Good Parents! I stand by them!

  12. Hannah Wright
    April 3, 2015 at 8:32 am

    Fuck everyone in these comments, so simple and close minded. Also, it’s not
    SEXUALITY it’s GENDER! Sex is what you are by your genitals, gender is what
    you identify as and sexuality is who you’re attracted to. Would all of you
    just stop being so ignorant and think for a fucking minute ‘hey maybe I’m
    wrong, maybe this child knows more about themselves than me a stranger on
    the internet that knows nothing about it’. It’s their body, their brain and
    their decision. These parents should be proud and should be applauded for
    making this kid’s life easier in the early stages than making them go
    through puberty in a body they don’t belong in.

  13. jessica hicks
    April 3, 2015 at 8:20 am

    Of course people do not understand it or agree with it because they are
    uneducated. All they want to believe is what they have known or heard from
    accordingly from religious groups. It is like they are in denial or reality
    and do not want to admit to the facts, evidence and truth. They are afraid
    that if they believe it and that it is true, then it will make them
    question god and so on. Then there are just ignorant bigoted people who
    want to be hateful about things. Maybe people has taken religion or the
    bible the wrong way and have gotten things twisted. Or maybe it simply is
    taken out of context. That is my belief. Because science proves a lot. I
    believe that his parents did the right thing for their child to be happy.
    Anyone who thinks differently, well, if it were their child they would
    probably end up causing their child so much hurt and emotional and mental
    issues as well as possible suicide risk, because people are gonna be who
    they are. No matter what. It is society that causes people to be
    emotionally incapable when it comes to stuff like this because they feel as
    if they are not accepted and theres nothing that they can do because they
    can not change how they feel. And if they fake and pretend to be something
    that they are not it is going to make them very unhappy and be depressed.
    People need to quit thinking how they feel and since they are “straight”
    every is straight because that is not how it works. Some people like pizza,
    but some do not! Some ppl like skinny ppl, some like bigger ppl, some ppl
    are attracted to people or things other may not be. We are all different!

  14. olderstudent2
    April 3, 2015 at 7:25 am

    I knew at age 2. My first, and only, memory from that age is irritation
    at my mother calling me “her”.
    I don’t know how to handle this family’s situation, and I’ve been
    thinking about it for almost 60 years. I never told my wonderful mom my
    secret. She would have been heartbroken to learn that I planned for decades
    to kill myself after she died and couldn’t be hurt. (I transitioned
    instead – and planning suicide because “I was supposed to” and “God hated
    me” was a “phase” I could have skipped happily).
    These parents get a live kid – and the kid doesn’t have to live like a
    foreign spy with a secret identity.
    And to those out there who are angry because you are being denied the
    right to bully this family (nice folks, you can ignore this part), this
    will make you really mad. You were raised to believe it was your right to
    dominate and bully other people. You owned the non-straight people of my
    generation, and we have gotten away from you. What will you do for fun?

  15. Dissonant Drones
    April 3, 2015 at 7:21 am

    22 year old female here. At 3/4 years old, I thought I was a cat. At 5/6
    years old, I didn’t fit in at school and I wanted to be “unique” and
    different. There was a girl who wore the boys’ uniform, and I began to copy
    her style. I also happened to have boy-ish mannerisms. I liked to climb
    trees, ect. I begged my mom for boys’ clothes because I thought the girls
    clothes at k-mart were stupid. (They were, I preferred plainer garments).
    When I reached adolescence and started to notice boys, I became girlier.
    AKA, I grew out of it! So glad I wasn’t born 10-15 years later to liberal
    nitwit parents. 

  16. KCoolOfficial
    April 3, 2015 at 6:54 am

    Plot twist: after becoming a transgendered male she becomes a homosexual.

  17. becky donald
    April 3, 2015 at 6:26 am

    i think these parent’s rock and that Ryland is a very lucky little boy!
    Iam in total agreement that we are born with a biological predisposition
    for gender and sexual orientation. Roland and his parents are very brave
    and i hope that there story will help other parents’ of transgender kids to
    stop and think and educate themselves. Parents should love their children
    unconditionally and this is a wonderful example of this kind of love in

    thanks for the opportunity to comment.

  18. Kyah Griffin
    April 3, 2015 at 5:43 am

    Ryland is an a amazing little boy and i think what the parents have done is

  19. KCoolOfficial
    April 3, 2015 at 5:00 am

    That boys gonna find out the hard way when he gets a dick in his ass and
    feels pain.

  20. floy delta
    April 3, 2015 at 4:03 am

    Her name is ryland?

  21. Johnny Matthew
    April 3, 2015 at 3:15 am

    I have no issues with transgenderism and I believe gender identity is very

    However, I can’t say I’m convinced that they know this girl has gender
    identity at 5. When I was 5, I wanted to be a cat in space. I just don’t
    get how an female infant can say she’s a “boy” and it’s considered gender

    I have no memory of being an infant, but I can’t say for sure I didn’t say
    I was a girl when I was 2. What if my parents took that to mean I had
    gender identity?

  22. tomant
    April 3, 2015 at 2:50 am

    i have a friend who acts like a boy in almost every way i dont know if
    there gay transgender or neither but shes pretty cool either wich way so i
    dont really care but if she said she was gay or transgender i would totaly
    belive her.

  23. Johnny Matthew
    April 3, 2015 at 2:25 am

    I like your book collection by the way.

  24. Alise Nikitenko
    April 3, 2015 at 2:22 am

    Honestly, WHAT THE HELL? That is a SIX YEAR OLD CHILD. WTF is wrong with
    the parents? To all of you who are saying “The parents made the right
    choice”, shame on you. A SIX year old doesn’t UNDERSTAND the whole gender
    thing yet! Maybe when they are a little bit older, like 16, then they are
    more aware of it, but at SIX? Lots of girls at six like to do boy things,
    play with toy cars, I don’t know! It’s called a PERSONALITY, not a
    different gender. The parents did the wrong thing by letting this poor
    child get the operation. That is horrible. The child probably doesn’t even
    know what is going on! I mean, COME ON, SHE WAS SO LITTLE! Horrible
    horrible horrible. A 5-6 year old might say, “hey, look I’m a monkey” and
    start acting like a monkey, that doesn’t mean you should put them in a cage
    in the zoo, or leave them alone in a jungle. The parents are SO STUPID.
    Kids at that age are kids, they will say and do different things, and just
    because your daughter doesn’t want to play with dolls, doesn’t mean that
    you need to put her on a hospital bed and turn her vagina into a penis.
    This is just gross!!! Stupid stupid stupid. The parents should be ashamed
    of themselves, and such operations SHOULD NOT BE LEGAL. THIS IS CHILD

  25. paola knowles
    April 3, 2015 at 1:33 am

    When i was her age, I wanted to be a boy so bad, wore guy clothes.
    lied to my guy friends and told them i was a guy, but as i got older i was
    with who I was, a GIRL. terrible parenting. 

  26. Natalie MacQueen
    April 3, 2015 at 1:19 am

    You should have uploaded this sooner! lol. I didn’t even know about the
    Trans day of visibility.

    I probably wouldn’t have done anything different though… So I guess it
    doesn’t really matter. lol.

  27. Alpha Angrian
    April 3, 2015 at 12:34 am

    Your videos are so brilliant. 

  28. Chelsey Blair Kendig
    April 2, 2015 at 11:35 pm

    I’m a bi-cisally, but I had to comment in here because what you said
    reminded so much of the 1984-era AIDS rhetoric. Terrifying.

  29. Li M
    April 2, 2015 at 10:48 pm

    Thank you for doing a video. It was awesome! At first I was scared to take
    part in TOV bc my twitter account has my given name. But then, I realized I
    don’t have many followers and the chances of someone seeing that tweet, who
    would want to ‘punish’ me for participating, was slim. Actually taking part
    makes me want to do more. But then your comment about changing society
    pulled me back because I was reminded of my family (parents). I’m no big
    optimist. I don’t think my parents will ever change. They use phrases like,
    “Oh those people are getting bold wearing such things…” As if being out
    in public is morally wrong. Obviously more visibility brings about more
    awareness. But, with that comes a great push back. I think hatred feeds off
    of fear. The fear that keeps people (like myself) hidden and silent.

    That said, I think you brought up some amazing points. The hashtag you were
    thinking of is #RealLiveTransAdult

    Thank you again for making this video. 

  30. Ethan Pardo
    April 2, 2015 at 10:41 pm

    You and this video are incredible Chase. You inspire me a lot and it’s
    fantastic to finally have a trans youtuber who makes great stuff and who I
    can relate to a lot.

  31. Katelyn Smtih
    April 2, 2015 at 10:16 pm

    You’re so amazing and thank you so much for educating people I’m so
    grateful that you’re teaching people, me included, about this because it’s
    so important and you make it visible so thank you

  32. Lizette Caballero
    April 2, 2015 at 9:17 pm

    I am afraid to come out of the closet as a trans man because I am terrified
    that people at school will start to bully me or worse. I have told two
    people and one of them said that she would call me “it” or “she” but not a

  33. ∆rtemis
    April 2, 2015 at 8:57 pm

    Boys Don’t Cry fucked me up too and I watched it before I even came out so
    I was extra o_o

  34. Laura Latter
    April 2, 2015 at 8:41 pm

    everything you said in this is everything i always want to say to most
    everyone that i know, but i just never can. so thank you for just being so
    real and honest on here because this world and this society needs more
    people to talk about these issues the way you do. i dont know if any of
    that even makes sense, but i just wanted to say that i appreciate you and
    respect you so so much. thank you for just doing everything you do for the
    trans community chase. <3

  35. uppercaseCHASE1
    April 2, 2015 at 8:08 pm
  36. Ian Lewis Scott
    April 2, 2015 at 7:55 pm

    North Carolina. Homecoming king in North Carolina.

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